Sometimes I feel like I need to explain the simple and seemingly childlike motto on my website that says “Keep going. It will be important later.”
Those two sentences came into my mind one evening many years ago as I was making dinner. I remember the moment vividly. My father was living at an Alzheimer’s facility deep in the throes of the disease, my mother was being treated for metastatic cancer with unknown prognosis, I was in the midst of a marital separation, starting a new job, and trying to parent my son but missing the mark and I knew it. It felt like I was missing all of the marks. That moment in the kitchen in the mountains of Malibu was perhaps the emotional nadir of my life, thus far.
Then I thought of Viktor Frankl’s Man’s Search for Meaning, the book that changed my life (and many other lives as I’ve learned). I thought of this quote: “When we are no longer able to change a situation, we are challenged to change ourselves.” It made me think about my own life and not everything going on around me. I thought about what I was working toward and why I was doing it. I needed to find meaning in the moment even if I couldn’t find the larger meaning of all the moments.
Then that simple and childlike motto popped into my brain as if implanted by the universe: “Keep going. It will be important later.” And I did. All I had to do was make the best decisions at each moment; not for tomorrow, not for next year, and not for 10 years from now. It was about staying the course step by step. Sometimes that is all we can do and that is okay.
This isn't to say I made all the right decisions. Nope! But I can say with certainty that the challenges we face, especially when "we are challenged to change ourselves," deepen our proverbial wells.
So keep going even when you can’t see the road in front of you. It really will be important later.